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Study: Most Reject Trans-Dating

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“Hey, everybody, it’s 2018! Do you want to date a transgendered person?” they asked.

“Uhh … no thanks,” everybody answered.


Virtually all heterosexuals excluded trans folks from their dating pool: only 1.8% of straight women and 3.3% of straight men chose a trans person of either binary gender. But most non-heterosexuals weren’t down for dating a trans person either, with only 11.5% of gay men and 29% of lesbians being trans-inclusive in their dating preferences. Bisexual/queer/nonbinary participants (these were all combined into one group) were most open to having a trans partner, but even among them, almost half (48%) did not select either ‘trans man’ or ‘trans woman.’

Of the seven participants who themselves identified as transgender or nonbinary, 89% were willing to date another trans person.

Meaning 11 percent of trans or trans-ish people would not date a trans person.

Naturally, this is prima facie evidence of rampant bigotry:

The high rates of trans exclusion from potential dating pools are undoubtedly due in part to cisnormativity, cissexism, and transphobia — all of which lead to lack of knowledge about transgender people and their bodies, discomfort with these unknowns, and fear of being discriminated against by proxy of one’s romantic partner. It is also possible that at least some of the trans exclusion is due to the fact that for some people, sexual orientation might be not (just) about a partner’s gender identity, but attraction to specific body types and/or judgment of reproductive capabilities.

Read the whole thing. 

So, wait: I thought one’s sexual tastes were supposed to be free from the judgment of others. Now Social Justice Warriors are telling us that if you don’t want to have sexual congress with a man posing as a woman, or vice versa, that you are a bigot?

The failure of reality to contort itself to fit the radically disordered desires of a relative handful of people who happen to have allies in high places does nothing to help this radical minority live in peace. I can easily imagine the pain a transgendered person suffers when, after having mutilated his or her body, they discover that most people don’t actually believe they are who they say they are. True, people might say that “sure, you’re a woman now” if you ask, but that doesn’t mean they really believe it. If they did, you wouldn’t be seeing these poll numbers.

about the author

Rod Dreher is a senior editor at The American Conservative. A veteran of three decades of magazine and newspaper journalism, he has also written three New York Times bestsellers—Live Not By Lies, The Benedict Option, and The Little Way of Ruthie Lemingas well as Crunchy Cons and How Dante Can Save Your Life. Dreher lives in Baton Rouge, La.

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