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Children As Therapeutic Accessories

The new trend:

As Christy Everson was nearing age 40, she made a decision: She wanted to have a child, even though she was single and it meant doing it all alone. Her daughter, conceived via a sperm donor, is now 2 1/2 years old, and Everson hopes to have a second child.

“Was it worthwhile? Well, I’m thinking of doing it again, aren’t I?” she says.

Everson and women like her are part of a shift in American society. An Associated Press-WE tv poll of people under 50 found that more than 2 in 5 unmarried women without children – or 42 percent – would consider having a child on their own without a partner, including more than a third, or 37 percent, who would consider adopting solo.

Adopting solo, I can understand. It’s a brave undertaking, and a selfless one, it seems to me. But choosing to conceive a child without a father present except as a sperm donor? This is morally irresponsible. The AP story says:

But Chen feels that a single mom can do just as good a job of raising a child as two parents can. Overall, the poll found decidedly mixed results on that question: Thirty percent of respondents said yes, 27 percent said no, and 43 percent said “it depends.”

No she can’t. Nor can a single father raise a child “just as good” as two parents can. One parent is better than no parents, but as one-half of a team raising three children, I can say without the slightest doubt that if my children were deprived of either their mother or their father, it would be a huge loss to them.

Why on earth would a woman choose to become pregnant intending to raise the child without a father? It’s perverse. Doesn’t the child have a right to a father? Or are children now consumer goods we may create to satisfy our desires?

about the author

Rod Dreher is a senior editor at The American Conservative. He has written and edited for the New York Post, The Dallas Morning News, National Review, the South Florida Sun-Sentinel, the Washington Times, and the Baton Rouge Advocate. Rod’s commentary has been published in The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, the Weekly Standard, Beliefnet, and Real Simple, among other publications, and he has appeared on NPR, ABC News, CNN, Fox News, MSNBC, and the BBC. He lives in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, with his wife Julie and their three children. He has also written four books, The Little Way of Ruthie Leming, Crunchy Cons, How Dante Can Save Your Life, and The Benedict Option.

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