A Family Court judge has awarded full custody of a young child to her adopted mother, instead of her biological mom, in what is believed to be the first such New York state case involving a same sex couple.
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The judge’s ruling details the acrimonious situation that ensued after October 2006 when [Brooke] Altman, a former producer for Martha Stewart’s TV show, bore a baby girl conceived with sperm donated by [Allison] Scollar’s then-close friend Robert Frame — four years after the women met on a blind date and began living together.
Frame afterward renounced his parental rights in favor of Scollar legally adopting the girl. But Frame’s continued insistence that he “had a say” over the girl’s raising, and Altman’s taking his side, “became a big source of tension,” Scollar said.
“It seemed like the biological parents were united in trying to alienate the adoptive mother,” [Judge Gloria] Sosa-Lintner wrote.
To be sure, Altman comes across as a nut, at least in the judge’s remarks. The child sounds like she’s better off with Scollar. But good grief, this poor kid.
Jeff 
Joe the Plutocrat 
Matt in TX 
Saint Andeol 
Aaron in Israel 
Judith 
M_Young 
KMT 
Julie 
Lord Karth 
Polichinello 
Not as much “post-modern” as just “modern.”
This just shows that same-sex couples are having the same problems that opposite-sex couples have. Sometimes one parent turns out to be a nut, a nasty custody battle ensues, and that battle hurts the kid. Fortunately, the judge usually gets it right.
As a side note, this case shows one job I would never want–domestic court judge. These judges have to listen to limited evidence presented by angry parents and figure out what’s best for the kid. The judges usually get it right, but they are human, so they make mistakes that children end up paying for. They get reamed when they make one of those mistakes, but few notice when they get it right day-after-day.