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Timing and Time

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We let Lucas stay with his grandfather during Saturday’s reading from The Little Way Of Ruthie Leming [2]Of my children, he was the one closest to Aunt Ruthie. We knew he couldn’t handle the emotion of the event any more than my father could. They made good companions while the rest of us were at the event.

Afterward, I drove out to Starhill to pick up Lucas. On the way back, we stopped at the post office to let him run in to get the mail. He came back to the car waving the current issue of Time magazine. Here’s the cover:

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Know what that little boy said, so sweetly, and so sadly? “Why couldn’t they have published this a couple of years ago?”


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6 Comments To "Timing and Time"

#1 Comment By Helen On March 25, 2013 @ 9:39 am

Poor little man. I am so sorry about your family’s loss. The pain get less acute but never goes away, does it.

#2 Comment By BradleyP On March 25, 2013 @ 9:50 am

Book covers and magazine covers of all sorts have been touting cancer “cures” for decades, and they are wrong. Surgery, chemo, and radiation at the early stages sometimes deliver results; and as crappy as they are, that’s the best we have. The writers at TIME may have spoken to some researchers who have ideas about gene therapy, nanotechnology, and the like, but we’ve been hearing about that for a long time, too. The truth is that this disease is devastating, and if you can arrest it for more than a year or two, then you’re damn lucky. Shame on the editors at TIME for creating such a sensationalized cover and for doing that to your son. How cheap.

#3 Comment By Peggy On March 25, 2013 @ 10:37 am

Do I ever know how the kid feels. My favorite Aunt died of ovarian cancer several years ago. The wounds are still so fresh. Ever since then, every article about exciting advances in cancer treatment is like a stab in the heart. While I am glad for those who will benefit from them, I will always wonder, where the hell was this or that advance when my darling bubbly & talented aunt was being decimated by this heinous disease?

Sometimes I wish that hate could end cancer. If so, then mine would be sufficient to do the job.

#4 Comment By Blairburton On March 25, 2013 @ 10:50 am

To be fair, the TIME article itself doesn’t match the hyperbole of the cover headline. It starts out saying, to paraphrase, that “THE cure for cancer” and its discoverer will never exist, as cancer is complex, that it is hundreds, perhaps thousands of diseases with no single cause or cure. The multi-disciplinary team approach to treating and preventing cancer is what the article, which is interesting, is all about.

#5 Comment By Rod Dreher On March 25, 2013 @ 10:58 am

Oh, I don’t blame Time for making my kid sad. I just thought it was touching, what he said.

#6 Comment By Vivian On March 25, 2013 @ 5:26 pm

I attended the reading of your book Saturday. First, let me express my deepest sympathy to you and your family. The grief a sibling endures is sometimes overlooked (not intentionally) as much ministering is directed (and rightfully so) on the grieved spouse, children and parents. It has been 2o years since I lost 2 siblings–one older (47), one younger (37). It still hurts. With my remaining sibling, I have a strained relationship–I endure the grief you endured as my heart’s desire is to have a close relationship with my sibling as we are the only two left from our birth family. Like you and your sister, we talk and see each other occassionally. We appear reconciled, but there is a deep abyss between us.
From what I heard at the reading and in the panel discussion, your book is authentic. I am glad to know that! I have thought alot about your lack of closure regarding the reason for the distance that had been present for years between you and your sister. Yesterday at church, our pastor preached a sermon entitled “A Sweet, Unexpected Reconciliation” from Gen. 33:1-20. It is story of the reunion of Esau and Jacob. Let me encourage you to read the scripture. It is a beautiful portrait of the “wronged” brother running to meet his returning brother–hugging and kissing him. Our pastor noted that neither man mentions the incident that happened 20 or so years ago forever changing their destinies. As our pastor brought to our attention, God’s streams of grace had changed both men and their hearts. Our pastor said (and I thought this was very revealing!) “Sometimes, it’s good to conceal, not in all instances–for certain things should be spoken of, but if it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men (Romans 12:18).” As you said. “your sister did not like confrontation. She was a peacemaker.” Maybe because your godly sister lived this way, her reluctance to discuss the past paved the way for you to come home. As long as she was living there was palpable distance between you. The thought of moving back home was not on your radar. God was using circumstances to sanctify you both– preparing you both for your homecomings. It is interesting to note, Esau and Jacob did not live near each other and the Bible does not mention them ever seeing each other again on earth.
As a post script, my sibling and I own the family acreage. Although the land is divided, it is adjoining. I cannot go home…