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Parents As Enemy

The Philadelphia public schools just put their principals through a boot camp that featured indoctrination into gender theory [1] — on account of SAFETY, of course. “Safety” is the universal solvent of traditional gender and sexual norms in public schools. Here’s what school personnel in Philly are trained to do if they find a student who calls himself or herself transgender:

Explicit in the district’s policy is the belief that any student’s feelings about their gender identity are the most important consideration. If a student comes to the principal saying they wish to identify as transgender, it’s incumbent on you to be sensitive, Overton told the new principals, who read and discussed the policy and role-played situations that might crop up inside their schools.

“I would say, ‘Does your parent know? If not, would you like me to be there to help you tell them? Or do you want them not to know?’” said Overton. In one case, a student fearful for their safety if a parent found out they identified as transgender is known by one name at school, but is called by their legal name around their parent and in correspondence from the school.

“We are going to respect the child’s right to safety,” Overton said. “Make sure that’s really clear to your staff.”

So the public schools of Philadelphia are committed to formally lying to parents of its students, for the sake of advancing this cause. Because safety.

Emily Zinos is a Minnesota parent who saw her children’s school, Nova Academy, destroyed by two zealous parents of a trans child. In 2017, she wrote about why parents have to get involved in activism to save their kids’ schools before it’s too late. [2] Excerpt:

Gender activism moves fast, is well-funded, and directs a significant amount of resources at public schools. The tragic consequences of this ideology are all around us—teen girls getting mastectomies, minors put at risk of being sterilized by synthetic hormones, and a gag on scientific inquiry—but who will dare say the Emperor has no clothes? With public schools fast becoming incubators of gender ideology, parents need to cast off their fears of entering the fray, speak out, and, most importantly, teach their children that their sex is a beautiful, biological reality.

If it is not already in your children’s school, it will be. Are you ready for it? As far as these activists and their fellow travelers in the educational bureaucracy are concerned, you, mom and dad, are the enemy.

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#1 Comment By Ken’ichi On July 27, 2018 @ 3:20 pm


Ask around, and almost no one wants this sort of gender ideology promoted (that is, among parents who actually pay for schools)

So, “almost no one wants this” among powerless common folk, who’s opinions are irrelevant, but among elites, who have all the power and who’s opinions are only one that matter…

Something has to give on this one – this is going to require too much compelled speech.

Why does anything have to give — other than will of powerless peasants to resist their lords and masters, that is? What is “too much” compelled speech? Any amount of speech may be “compelled,” because the powerless masses will have only the same choice they always have had: obey, or suffer the punishments.

>>Chris – the other one

In reality, public schools have to deal with a large number of broken homes, abusive parents, and many other sad situations.

How large is “large number,” really? No system can be perfect, and there will always be some fraction who “fall through cracks” or “on the wrong end of the stick”; it is about trade-offs. And how bad and barbarous is America if “broken homes, abusive parents, and many other sad situations” are more than tiny fraction of families?

#2 Comment By Ken’ichi On July 27, 2018 @ 3:23 pm

>> no comment

This set of elites, local and national, are exercising power without any legitimacy whatsoever.

“Legitimacy” is nonsense. There is only power and powerless. Those who have the power to rule are the rulers, and that is that.

It needs to be said as often as possible because means we have a moral basis and right to withdraw consent just as the founders did.

“Consent of the governed” is Western nonsense. Rulers do not need peasants’ “consent,” only obedience, and so long as they can compel that, by punishments or otherwise, they rule.

the right political strategy (revolution peaceful or if necessary non-peaceful).

Except revolutions, particularly in the West, have only ever been led by rival elites, and true peasant revolts always fail. There has never been a Western Liú Bāng. And you have no would-be elites among you; the system of education and academia was too good at “brain-draining” such people out of you and into ruling elite.

It will be necessary to remove them by force and make them stop in order to not live under them.

Indeed, but you do not have sufficient force to remove them or make them stop, because they are mighty and you are weak.

They won’t use state power to help us.

What state power? States are powerless against Federal, and have been since your civil war.

While the Republicans control all three branches of the federal government

But do they control the parts with actual power? Congress is a rubber stamp, without even traditional “power of the purse” who have deferred all actual “legislating” to lobbyists, liberal-college-educated aides, and Executive bureaucracies. Officially, Executive bureaucracies answer to President, but we see now the >90% liberal permanent bureaucrats openly defying their supposed boss Trump, “the presidency at war with its president” as one writer puts it. The courts defer massively to those bureaucracy as well — “Chevron deference” I think its called. And even if Republicans now have SCOTUS (but what about all other courts), “conservative” Supreme Court judges always move to the Left once on the court (look at Roberts). And even when they don’t “conservative” judges are restrained and oppose “judicial activism” in favor of “respecting precedent” — precedent being previous Left-wing judicial activism, creating a Leftward “ratchet.” No Republican judge will ever engage in the “judicial activism to the Right” that is actually needed to counter the judicial activism to the Left, because that wouldn’t be “conservative.”

As I’ve seen it said, there is a difference between taking office and taking power, and Republican politicians can only ever do the former. They are not “treacherous,” they are powerless. It’s not that they are unwilling to do the things you want, things other than “help their donors, start wars, defend places like Montenegro”, it’s that they are unable, as would be any alternative you might try to

people who vote republican think they’re voting to put friends in high places when the truth is the exact opposite

But not in the way you think. It’s not that they’re putting enemies in high places, it’s that the places they’re voting Repulicans into aren’t actually “high.” It doesn’t matter who you vote for, how much they are friends of the common conservative voters, how dedicated they are to the cause and determined to get done the things “Establishment Repulicans” seemingly won’t do (and in reality can’t do), the outcome will be exactly the same as with the present GOP you call “disgusting from top to bottom.” No matter how the people vote, it simply cannot be otherwise.

And the Republicans “cower to the media” because the media is more powerful than them. Whatever it says on mere pieces of paper, the real power in America lies in the permanent Federal bureaucracy, Academia, and the Media, all of whom are >90% Left, and are immune to elections.

#3 Comment By Nate J On July 27, 2018 @ 5:05 pm

@Siarlys Jenkins:
“Can we agree that there is a substantial difference between a parent learning their child is dressing like the opposite sex and using a different name, and kicking them out of the house, vs. a parent learning their child is dressing like the opposite sex and using a different name, expressing some reservations and disapproval, and denying a request for immediate surgery and hormone treatments?”

Yes, and I think that’s an important distinction.

To be clear, the implication of these keep-parents-in-the-dark policies is that the first thing that any non-progressive, big bad Christian bigot will do is resort to violence and abuse. In fact, it’s not even an implication so much as a very explicit point made by defenders of these policies (most recently, in this very comment section).

So, where do I fit in to this, as one of those big, bad, regressive Christians who would never abuse my children? Am I just collateral damage? Am I assumed to be a violent abuser just because I don’t sign on to whatever whimsical SJW agenda of the month?

I confess that I am not entirely sure why I would ever send my children to a place that thinks so lowly of me, nor would I feel particularly compelled to pay taxes to uphold this system that actively reviles me. So much for “inclusion” and “diversity”, right?

The most compelling reason for a Benedict Option is the complacency of Christians and other traditionalists who believe that the system does not hate them. And to be clear, I mean *hate* — not a neutral stance or even distaste for our beliefs, but open hostility. I’m not sure why any Christian would ever tolerate being called an abuser by the public education system, but here we are not realizing what the architects of these systems openly think about us. Now, would you entrust such a system with the formation of your child? Or will they simply be trained to think of you as lowly as the system does?

As for the people who point to youth homelessness statistics and the like to prove how terrible Christian parents are, I think you are muddling your causality here. You assume that LGBT youth come out to their otherwise normal, loving parents, then suddenly get abused, sexually assaulted, and disowned. Is it not more likely that these LGBT kids are coming from places of abuse to begin with, perhaps even feeding into their gender non-conformity and confused sexual state? I’d bet a huge chunk of homeless youth have faced abusive, sexually exploitative, and unloving situations from birth, and that the LGBT characteristics come from wanting something to grab on to in a world that has mixed them up and kept them hurt for so long. And maybe the child runaway phenomenon correlates with LGBT because of some innate rebelliousness in the first place; you’d be naive to think that no kids out there just try on the LGBT label to tick off their parents. What I’m saying here is that there are other reasons for a high rate of LGBT homelessness than abusive, angry Christian parents.

#4 Comment By John On July 27, 2018 @ 9:17 pm


Yes of course there is a difference in the reactions of two disapproving parents – one who boots the kid out of the house and one who doesn’t approve of “cross dressing,” hormone treatment, and corrective surgery and they in turn differ from one who would allow for “cross dressing” and the name change while opposing anything medically intrusive.

The problem that faculty and students face is that they don’t know what the reaction will be until the parents actually find out.

On the other hand, as I said above, as much as I sympathize with a student’s desire to keep this from their parents, I don’t see how the school can successfully keep this information from getting out.

A student who puts him or herself as LGBTIA at school has to accept the uncomfortable fact that some students may not honor that request. Word will get out that a transgendered student who looks like a boy but identifies as a girl (or vice versa) is “cross dressing” and using a nickname.

#5 Comment By Siarlys Jenkins On July 27, 2018 @ 11:56 pm

So far the responses to my question about different parental responses, and their implications, have been quite helpful. I won’t comment in response because they speak for themselves, and helpfully enlarge the perspective I was trying to develop.

Ken’ichi noted a little while back, accurately enough, that we cannot call upon noblesse oblige, because we dispensed with our noblesse sometime back, and were celebrating that event earlier this month. In light of this history, his caterwauling about what samurai owe to peasants is so much personal fantasy. Its true that in any constitutional republic, there will be elites trying to grasp all power and wealth to themselves, and justifying it in all kinds of ways. But its not true that we are simply helpless to bring these would-be traitors to heel.

#6 Comment By Ken’ichi On July 28, 2018 @ 12:13 am

>>Nate J

I confess that I am not entirely sure why I would ever send my children to a place that thinks so lowly of me

Because, once homeschooling is highly regulated or banned, like in many other countries, you won’t have any choice under the law?

nor would I feel particularly compelled to pay taxes to uphold this system that actively reviles me.

Is not the fact that if you don’t pay, the IRS and other tax collection agencies (state) will simply take the money anyway by “garnishing” pay and seizing assets, and possibly throw you in jail/prison for “tax evasion” compulsion enough?

You ask why you should do these things. The answer is because you have no choice, you will be punished harshly if you don’t.

I’m not sure why any Christian would ever tolerate being called an abuser by the public education system

Because what can they possibly do about it?

#7 Comment By BCZ On July 28, 2018 @ 1:20 am

@RFD. This is a bit unuanced, and I think you can and should do better if you are to remain a credible voice on these issues. It certainly is a problem that the school is raising parents children with alternative names, etc. Of course, it’s worth noting that we place an increasingly unbearable burden on schools to raise children generally. The norm is parental abdication, not parental involvement like you or I. Acknowledging that context seems pretty relevant. It isn’t merely ‘gender ideology’ that is doing this… it’s dovetailed by the cultural collapse folks like Deneen spell out.

Moreover, to just *eyeroll* at serious concerns about safety is either (a) very ignorant about the reality and seriousness of those concerns (check out the stats on homelessness and abuse of transgender youths) (b) borderline irresponsible. Do you take such a hard line on parental authority that you believe public schools should terrorize children with the prospect of being sent into a certain situation of abuse? Let’s think about what that does to basic trust between adults and children? Let’s think about the completely authoritarian environment that makes childhood. It may also be (c) just intellectually lazy… but if so, get over it because we need more from you.

#8 Comment By JonF On July 28, 2018 @ 9:08 am

Ken’ichi ,

Perhaps you have heard of Occcam’s Razor? I would suggest that by that principle a more economical explanation is to be preferred: the bulk of GOP legislators, judges and, yes presidents, do not really give a hoot about the social issues they campaign on. Their chief purpose in office is to A) feather their own nests and B) pass laws, make regulations and issue rulings that empower and enrich “their” kind of people. The social issues are just “boob bait for Bubbas”.

#9 Comment By no comment On July 28, 2018 @ 9:57 am

Ken’ichi, Could quibble a bit on a few details and points of history but I won’t. Fine analysis in the main — couldn’t agree more!

I wish I could stamp an inverted version of your replies to me on the forehead of every conservative in this country and in this thread so they have to read it each time they look in the mirror

The facts as you’ve correctly outlined them quite clearly show that a reactionary counter revolution, a reverse 1789 or 1917 if you will, is necessary. Whether one is possible is a different question.

The fact that revolutions are a fairly constant feature in history is proof that elites do sometimes break ranks with each other, with the breakaway elite faction joining with a popular movement to lead a successful revolt against the ruling elite and thereby bring about major change in the lives of us peasants.

#10 Comment By Franklin Evans On July 28, 2018 @ 11:36 am


In your long response to no comment, you make an assertion, my emphasis added: Officially, Executive bureaucracies answer to President, but we see now the greater than 90% liberal permanent bureaucrats openly defying their supposed boss Trump, “the presidency at war with its president” as one writer puts it.

Please provide a verifiable citation for a “permanent” federal bureaucrat, liberal or not, openly defying an order from the executive office of that agency. Perhaps this is under-reported, or drowned out by Dept of Education mandates bankrupting people with student loans who were criminally defrauded by for-profit schools, or overshadowed by grant recipients who are suddenly burdened with debt because of a system glitch, but are now subject to prosecution if they fail to pay on their grants… um, loans.

Those are just two, under Sec. Betsy DeVos, who last I saw reports directly to the President. Maybe the stories you hear are about his objecting to her actions, and she just ignores Trump and proceeds?

I’m ignoring the fact that the vast majority of liberals are opposed to both Dept of Ed policy changes.

I await your citations. I’d search for them myself, but I wouldn’t know what keywords to use.

#11 Comment By Ken’ichi On July 28, 2018 @ 1:41 pm

(Hoping this goes through past spam filter despite so many links.)

>>Franklin Evans

First, I said defying Trump, not defying head of agency. But, how about, from New York Times [3],”

Despite repeated efforts by President Trump to curtail refugee resettlements, the State Department this week quietly lifted the department’s restriction on the number of refugees allowed to enter the United States.

The result could be a near doubling of refugees entering the country, from about 830 people a week in the first three weeks of this month to well over 1,500 people per week by next month, according to refugee advocates. Tens of thousands of refugees are waiting to come to the United States.

The State Department’s decision was conveyed in an email on Thursday to the private agencies in countries around the world that help refugees manage the nearly two-year application process needed to enter the United States.

In her email, Jennifer L. Smith, a department official, wrote that the refugee groups could begin bringing people to the United States “unconstrained by the weekly quotas that were in place.”

From Vanity Fair: “ [4]“:

Not everyone within the federal government is staying quiet, however. On Tuesday, the Twitter account for South Dakota’s Badlands National Park—a subsidiary of the National Park Service—began tweeting out climate change facts, in apparent defiance of the gag order. Someone working for the national park’s social media team went rogue and started posting climate change facts from the National Wildlife Federation’s Web site in 140-character bursts.

From Washington Post [5]“:

Defense Secretary Jim Mattis announced Tuesday that he is freezing the implementation of President Trump’s ban on transgender people serving in the military, saying that he will first establish a panel of experts to provide advice and recommendations on how to carry out Trump’s directive.

Bureaucratic obstructionism and delay tactics to avoid actually obeying order of Commander-in-Chief.

The Hill [6]“:

“This is typical of Nielsen,” one person told McClatchy. “She is known for deliberately ignoring warnings that her decisions are not in keeping with the president’s agenda, but that she proceeds forcefully and simply misrepresents what she is doing.”

RT: “ [7]

Or do you remember Bolton’s “Libya model” remark, that nearly sabotaged summit with North Korea?

The New Yorker had “ [8]” — so who answers to whom, exactly, to be “defying”?

New York Post: “ [9]

On Dec. 7, David Satterfield, acting assistant secretary for the Near East, fetched up in the press room and Matt Lee of the Associated Press posed the first question.

“What is the capital of Israel?” he asked.

“The president,” Satterfield said, “announced yesterday, issued a proclamation declaring the United States recognizes Jerusalem as the capital of the state of Israel.”

“So,” said Matt Lee, “the answer to the question is Jerusalem — correct?”

“That’s exactly right,” said Satterfield.

“What country is Jerusalem in?” Lee asked. (He’s no dummy.)

Satterfield paused just a bit. “The president recognized Jerusalem as the capital of the state of Israel,” he dodged, showing an ever-so-slight smile.

“Does that mean then that the US government officially recognizes that the Jerusalem municipality lies within the state of Israel?” Lee followed up.

That’s when Satterfield announced that “there has been no change in our policy with respect to consular practice or passport issuance.”

And these all just from quick search.

I’d search for them myself, but I wouldn’t know what keywords to use.

Start with “defies Trump”.

#12 Comment By DRK On July 28, 2018 @ 1:46 pm

MichaelGC, you are comparing HUD’s snapshot of a single night in January at homeless shelters (which is a Point In Time measure) to the William Institute’s yearly total of all the youth who were homeless in that year, (which is a Period Prevalence Count). You are comparing apples and oranges.

The National Coalition for the Homeless has a good explanation of these two methodologies, but I will attempt one as well, by way of analogy.

Instead of a homeless shelter, imagine a house in which two parents and a teen reside. In January, there are 3 people living in that house. In fall, the kid goes to college. Now 2 people live there. Grandma and Grandpa move in, and now there’s 4 people in that house. In 2017, 5 people in total lived in that house, and that is what the Williams Institute is measuring. But on a single night in January, only 3 people lived there, and that is what HUD is reporting. Both methodlogies are valid, but they are not the same measure.

You can bury your head in the sand about this, but the truth is, a significant percentage of homeless kids are LGBT, and it’s important to know what the possible effects will be before blithely deciding to out LGBT kids to their parents. 1in 4 kids in this group becoming homeless tips the balance for me, away from parental notification. And yes, I am a parent.

Oh, and to the commenter whose commitment to parental rights is so strong he’s ok with one in four LGBT kids becoming homeless as a result of it: if you have children, I feel truly sorry for them.


#13 Comment By no comment On July 28, 2018 @ 2:08 pm

Franklin, It’s not a good counter example to Ken’chi’s point about Republican elites ignoring the commoners who gave them power. Betsy DeVos, as a mainstream Bush Republican rather than a Trumpist or any kind of reform populist, serves the interests of the Republican donor class. This is why she is doing favors for banks rather using her considerable federal authority to advance policies that Trump voters care about, such as robust federal support for homeschooling.

Did you know that DeVos was in favor of keeping the Obama administration’s trans bathroom order in effect? She was in favor of keeping the Obama administration’s trans policies for the schools in place. It is a perfect example of well placed bureaucrat trying to sabotage and work against the interests of the functional peasantry that is the Trump voting pool, even though she is in the job because of the Trump pool.

So the answer to this conundrum is understanding that the unelected Executive bureaucracy has and will continue make every effort to sabotage any moves that Trump makes in the direction of populist reform, or reform that goes against elite interests or cultural sensibilities, including those of the GOP donor class

And indeed that has been exactly the case with Trump’s attempted moves on the Wall, DACA, trade reform, tariffs and detente with Russia. The usual trash septic tank garbage Zombie Reaganist Republicans Ryan, Sasse, etc. have been and are sabotaging Trump’s attempted moves on all of those things for two years.

By bringing up DeVos, you help Ken’s case. Trump’s refusal to go outside the establishment for help was and is biggest mistake and will be the ultimate source his downfall.

Side note: I can’t help but notice that I drew your attention to the 4th Wave Now mother, and you didn’t respond to her story.

#14 Comment By Franklin Evans On July 29, 2018 @ 2:26 am

Ken’ichi, please identify how “90% of the people you named are “liberals”. You cherry-picked your assertion, from where I sit.

no comment: how many of the people being named were fired, demoted or faced disciplinary actions? Trump is essentially incompetent. That “his” hureacracy is sputtering at best and failing in some places gives me little confidence.

#15 Comment By JonF On July 29, 2018 @ 7:40 am

Re: It is a perfect example of well placed bureaucrat trying to sabotage and work against the interests of the functional peasantry that is the Trump voting pool,

Trump’s voters were not by any definition a “peasantry”. They are above median income.

Re: The usual trash septic tank garbage Zombie Reaganist Republicans Ryan, Sasse, etc. have been and are sabotaging Trump’s attempted moves on all of those things for two years.

This smacks of the “good tsar, bad ministers” excuses that incompetent or just plain bad rulers relied on for centuries to hold their subjects’ loyalties

I think we also need to ask whether the homeless LGBT kids are homeless because they are gay or because of other behavioral problems. I have a lawyer friend who used to do a lot of work, some of it pro bono, for young people whose families had disowned them and, yes, many were gay (or sometimes “gay for pay”) but the issue was rarely that, but rather drug use, stealing and the like.

#16 Comment By Siarlys Jenkins On July 29, 2018 @ 5:02 pm

Did you know that DeVos was in favor of keeping the Obama administration’s trans bathroom order in effect? She was in favor of keeping the Obama administration’s trans policies for the schools in place.

If true, I find that comforting. I despise De Vos, and I would hate to have to appreciate her for even one sensible decision.

#17 Comment By Franklin Evans On July 30, 2018 @ 10:11 am

no comment, the 4th Wave article describes a tragedy. As a parent myself, with two daughters and a son, I can well understand the mother’s heartache… however, taking her chosen order of descriptions, assuming that they are chronologically accurate, there’s a simple rebuttal to the notion that the story is representative of anything.

She didn’t seek professional care immediately. Indeed, she bought into the social pressure from the beginning, instead of acting like a damn parent and getting all of the facts before getting depressed.

Being homosexual is neither a disease nor a clinical disorder. Gender dysphoria is a clinical diagnosis, and any parent who thinks she can diagnose her child is borderline criminally negligent.

My friend, a war is being waged, and the battlefield is the children’s lives. I’m sure there are some important points on which you and I can agree. I’m really no longer interested in that debate. Step up for the children, and be aware that the first ethical and moral commitment is to their health and safety.

#18 Comment By Siarlys Jenkins On July 30, 2018 @ 9:07 pm

My friend, a war is being waged, and the battlefield is the children’s lives.

I would submit that this is the crux of the PROBLEM, not the moral compass for arriving at a solution. Almost everyone insisting that Something Must Be Done, no matter what it is they want done or why, are using the children’s lives as a battlefield for their own ulterior motives.

#19 Comment By Franklin Evans On July 31, 2018 @ 11:54 am

I’m 62 years old. I have two sisters who are 7 and 10 years older than I am. I am witness to the changes in public education, and they boil down to political battles being fought at the expense of the quality, breadth and focus of children’s education.

There are many players in that game. Some of them are parents who were/are deeply concerned about the schools first, their children being a very close second (1B to the 1A). Some parents don’t care about the larger picture, they are fully into the cult of entitlement, and their only satisfaction is seeing their children get high test scores and offers from the highest-profile colleges.

There are the perennial childless (none or all grown), who decide that their taxes should not go to funding public schools.

In the halls of government, there are a very few elected officials who want to do right by the general case. They are essentially feckless. The rest want one thing only, to be re-elected. They’ll do anything, including sabotaging public education, to get re-elected.

Siarlys, to Hell with the moral compass. Children are being harmed by people with no accountability, and apparently neither hearts nor souls.