Do read David Schaengold , who also has more here . I suppose I don’t – or at least, try not to – share the conviction that it’s simply impossible for our society to take on the question of what sorts of goods are embodied by homosexual unions, but as I could have made much clearer in my earlier post  the last couple of sentences in this conclusion  seem quite right to me:
… given the thrust of public opinion, either we’ll get private marriage, or gay marriage. The latter seems much preferable to me, even to a reactionary like me. Gay marriage might lead to the destruction of the institution of marriage, but privatizing marriage would be the destruction of the institution.